by Tania Henderson | May 11, 2022 | Anxiety, Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
Jane is furious that a friend, Lisa, did not respond when she called. “I never reach out after 9 p.m. so if I do, it’s urgent!” No voicemail message was left. Jane concluded that if Lisa did not pick up or notice an attempted call and get back to her right away,...
by Tania Henderson | Apr 16, 2022 | Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
Speaking up for ourselves can bring up significant distress. Many articles on the subject conclude that the discomfort is really about insecurity. For example, Sicinski states, “The fear of rejection is an irrational fear that has you convinced that people won’t...
by Tania Henderson | Jan 24, 2022 | Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
It is understandable that we want to avoid those things that are uncomfortable or involve risk. Even after being in the field for 25 years, I don’t relish the fact that some feedback I give is painful and hard to hear. It is tempting to try a variety of...
by Tania Henderson | Dec 23, 2021 | Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
It is understandable that we want to be empathic and caring toward each other and do what we can to prevent causing another pain. This is not just a value system; it is hardwired into our very being! Through my exploration on this topic, I came across some...
by Tania Henderson | Nov 22, 2021 | Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
Disappointment is the grief we feel when reality falls far short from what we had hoped. It is a mixture of anger (not o.k.!), and sadness (loss) that naturally occurs when dreams fall flat, things change, accidents happen, or situations are beyond our control....
by Tania Henderson | Sep 28, 2021 | Communication, Disappointment, Relationship, Self-care, Uncategorized
I was having a casual conversation with a grandfather who loved his role through and through. As he talked about his delight spending time with his granddaughter, he mentioned, with a smile, that he could not say “no” to her. “If she gets a sad face or...
